These questions came courtesy of my friend Duncan at Your Sex Interview. He has a totally amazing mind you should read him.
1. CAN SEX BE GREAT IF IT’S JUST PHYSICAL, WITH NO RELATIONSHIP (THE OTHER PERSON IS EXTREMELY ATTRACTIVE BUT RANDOM
Sex is different with a long term partner that it is with a random stranger. For me at least. Sex with a long term partner can be a minefield. You have, most likely, seen them at their least sexy such as throwing up after drinking too much or scratching their arse while wearing those pants with the hole in the knee that they refuse to throw away. So when you have sex with them you have to get past that. It takes more effort and commitment to get down and really dirty with someone you have lived with for twenty years. At the same time they know you and they can access the cheats and hacks to get you really going… If they want to.
With a hot random there is no baggage. There is just pure unbridled sex. If you can let go and be in that moment the sex can be next level. Although someone very smart told me recently that women find it hard to be in the moment sexually. I guess I am one of the lucky ones.
2. HAVE YOU EVER HAD AN EXTRA STRONG ORGASM AND LOST CONTROL (WAY MORE THAN USUALLY IF YOU LOSE CONTROL OFTEN)? HOW WERE YOU DIFFERENT DURING SUCH AN ORGASM
I posted recently about my evolution through orgasms. In this post I explained that if I have been playing for some time a clitoral orgasm can be the full stop to proceedings. These orgasms can a bit underwhelming especially if I have been holding them off for a while. Sometimes though they are the exact opposite. Sometimes they are so strong that I squirt litres of liquid and am left quivering and unable to be touched.
3. WOULD YOU RATHER HAVE AN AMAZING ORGASM YOURSELF OR GIVE/WATCH THE PERSON YOU WERE HAVING SEX WITH AN AMAZING ORGASM (IF IT HAD TO BE ONE OR THE OTHER)?
Something that never fails to give me pleasure is listening to and watching guys cum. Especially if it is because of something I did to them. Like giving them head or fucking then. I have a few erotic memories that never fail to turn me on. One is a recording of a session with JB. His ex wife had never allowed him to cum in her mouth. So of course I was all about giving him that experience. I decided to record it to add to the experience. I listened to that recording on repeat for weeks.
Another much older memory is of a very gentle man I was fortunate enough to experience very early in my swinging journey. Unlike most men my age now he climaxed several times during the night we spent together. I still remember the noises he made third time he came. Afterwards he told me he didn’t think it was possible for him to climax that many times in a night but he couldn’t stop himself because I was so focussed on his pleasure.
4. HAVE YOU EVER BEEN INAPPROPRIATELY PROPOSITIONED BY SOMEONE (SOMEONE WHO SHOULDN’T HAVE BEEN PROPOSITIONING YOU)? DID YOU TURN THEM DOWN? DID YOU TELL ANYBODY? (IF MORE THAT ONCE, ANSWER WITH THE MOST SCANDALOUS OR INTERESTING
When I thought about answering this question I wasn’t sure if it was a good idea to answer. I am down for most inappropriate situations for example; giving a man head in the change room at a large department store, fucking in a park while my husband watched behind a tree, fucking in a picnic area near a popular lakeside camping spot (the guy who was fishing nearby had a great show!). I could go on but you get the picture.
I have a fairly firm set or rules about WHO I will and won’t fuck. Mostly it is anyone I like unless you are cheating. I won’t go in to the why’s and wherefores of it. I am also not down with fucking anyone who is connected to my professional life. Nor am I down with fucking at school, even after hours, or doing a teacher – student role play. That is a line I won’t cross even in pretend. It is just too close to home for me.
Unfortunately I find myself saying no to cheaters frequently. I am getting fairly good at reading the signs and cutting off conversations early.
Also unfortunately something that happens when guys discover I am a teacher is that they get hung up on the idea of playing out a fantasy they had as horny teenage boys. I am 48, slightly overweight and not at all athletic. I am 100% certain NONE of the boys in my care go home after I have drilled maths into them and masturbate. I don’t care what you fantasised about your gym teacher at school. Sadly there have been a couple of men who have not let the idea of visiting me after school and getting down and dirty in a classroom go. They got nowhere very fast.