TMI Tuesday – Post Christmas Limbo

1. Would you rather live in a real haunted house or a gingerbread house?

In the story Hansel and Gretel manage to overpower the witch to escape. Plus who wouldn’t love to live in a house that is that tasty.

2. One practical use for your belly button is _____ .

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As a shot glass. Having a very sexy cuban drinking cuban rum from my belly button was one of the sexiest things I have done.

3. Do you trust birds? If not, why not?

Our house is a place where birds seem to come when they have no home or have been rejected from their home. My rainbow lorikeet was re-homed with us when his original owner could no longer keep him. We have several chickens and geese that also came to us because their previous owners were not able to keep them. The most recent resident in our house is a darling little blue budgie who flew into our yard being attacked by other wild birds. Despite our efforts we could not find his owners. He has repaid our kindness by singing his little heart out every morning.

4. What’s wrong with you?

Way back when I turned 40 I was diagnosed with hypertension. At the time I felt cheated by my body and by the passing of time. A few months after my 50th birthday I was diagnosed with osteo arthritis, another disease of old age.

5. Would you rather be a millionaire but NOT have friends or family or be broke but have friends and family?

This seems like such a cliche choice. As much as I find people draining and sometimes downright annoying I would rather have special people than money.

TMI Tuesday – Ghosts of Christmas

1. Would you rather work on Christmas day and earn 4 times your daily salary or spend the day with your family?

For a large part of my working life I worked in the food manufacturing industry. Not surprisingly Christmas is a dominating factor in almost every type of food manufacture. For some reason people think they need to purchase a ridiculous amount of food and stores think that factories can just double their production over night. The flip side of this is that in the days following Christmas people realise that they have more food than they need and stores stop stocking most products, consequently expecting manufacturers to turn off the production tap just as quickly as it was turned on.

This phenomenon is OK if you make a product that has a long shelf life like biscuits or pasta but if your business is anything to do with fresh produce it is hell on legs. Any farmer will laugh at you if you suggest to get cows to increase production overnight or chickens to lay an extra egg or two just for the month of December. Just as they will laugh at you if you ask them to turn their production off on the 26 December.

So would I work on Christmas for four times my salary? There has been times when I had to and I certainly didn’t get paid four times my salary. I am certain all the doctors and nurses in hospitals all around the world also don’t get that choice.

2. Would you rather spend a snowy day outside playing winter games/sports or spend a snowy day inside with your most annoying relative?

As I explained in my last TMI post snow is a once in a lifetime experience for the vast majority of Australians. Unless you are into skiing and even then you wouldn’t be skiing every year. So my annoying relative can go to hell. I am making snow angels and snow men.

3. For the month of December would you rather sing jingle bells really loud every time you enter a room or wear a Santa suit every day?

I love getting into the Christmas Spirit by wearing a really crappy Christmas T-shirt. I actually own several, along with a selection of Christmas earrings, headwear and a few Christmas print dresses. So Santa suit please, although there better be air conditioning.

4. Would you rather choose your presents or be surprised?

The IDEA of being surprised is appealing but of course in that fantasy the giver of the gift has great insight and gives a gift that is perfect. The reality is slightly different. As a person who is extremely conscious of the amount of STUFF we humans seem to accumulate I would rather receive a gift I have a use for.

5. Would you rather be Scrooge before he meets the ghost of Christmas or be the Grinch before becoming good?

I would rather be Scrooge. Even though he was a grumpy old man who would’t let his employees have a day off he didn’t actively try to sabotage the whole day. Today I am dealing with a bit of joint pain and I am feeling a bit like Scrooge.

Bonus: Everyone loves boobies

I have probably posted this before but who doesn’t love a pair of novelty Christmas nipple hats.

TMI Tuesday The Christmas Edition

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1. Would you rather have a cold December holiday season or a warm holiday season?

Like a lot of people in the world I have never experienced the opposite of what my local climate has to offer. I know that many Australians choose to holiday in a colder northern hemisphere country just to have the experience of a Christmas that looks like a Christmas card but I am not one of them, yet. In all honesty I don’t think I would specifically travel overseas just to have a white Christmas. While it is frustrating to see snow and Northern Hemisphere based images everywhere when it is 30 degrees outside I would rather have seafood and salad for lunch on Christmas Day than a roast.

2. Would you rather help Santa deliver presents or help Santa in his workshop?

I am a creator. Nothing makes me happier than making things with my hands. Food, clothes, stories. Definitely an elf in Santa’s workshop.

3. Would you rather wear nice clothes all Christmas day or wear pajamas?

In line with the weather the standard dress for Christmas Day is a cheesy Christmas t-shirt and shorts. No shoes. Or swimmers if you are spending the day in the pool or at the beach. Nice clothes are uncomfortable, basically because they are hot. As a child, I loved the feeling of getting home after church and taking those damned “nice clothes” off.

4. Would you rather eat fruit cake for two days straight or eat candy canes for two days straight?

I don’t think Australians get candy canes right. I am sure they don’t. If they do I REALLY don’t understand the fuss. Fruit cake is a much better option.

5. Right now would you rather eat gingerbread cookies or drink hot chocolate?

Again. Hot, sweaty, humidity. We had several storms last night so now that the sun is out it is going to get steamy. So gingerbread with cold milk or even iced tea sounds delightful.

This post is part of this week’s TMI Tuesday. If you would like to read more TMI goodness click on the button below

TMI Tuesday – Relationships and Attention

1. Compared to 5 years ago do you care more or less about what people think of you?

I would like to say less. The reality is probably that it hasn’t really changed. I still have a pathological need to gain people’s approval

2. What is the last self-help book, article or blog post you read? Did it help you?

In the early hours of this morning I was preparing a blog post and I delved into articles about narcissistic parents and the effects on their children. It was somewhat helpful to explain the behaviour of my own parent which hasn’t always been exemplary but I guess we all have failings. The thing I am coming to realise is that while you may have a reason for your failing I don’t have an obligation to accept behaviour from you that is damaging to me. There is a reason that the word toxic is used to describe certain people.

3. Tell us 3 people you must have in your life.

Mr Jones because he is Mr Jones. I like to think sometimes that I could manage without him but I really honestly couldn’t.

The Unicorn because if there was a mini me in the world it is her.

I don’t have a third person.

4. Does tech interfere with your personal relationships? How so?

I think that tech interferes with living in general. Spending endless hours with your head down scrolling and scrolling. When can you get that time back. How can you connect when you are so stimulated that your brain doesn’t relax into existing?

5. When you want your partner or friend’s undivided attention, how do you communicate that?

Depends on the friend but I find putting my body directly in their line of sight so that they can’t ignore me works well. This applies for teenagers who don’t want to listen to an instruction, children who are fixated on a television and husbands who haven’t noticed you in a while.

Bonus: What is your view of love?

TMI Tuesday – Cheating and Lovers

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1. You unexpectedly had sex with your friend’s partner. You feel guilty. Your friend’s partner keeps texting you begging you not to say anything about the two of you having sex. Would you tell your friend or keep mum?

I am not sure how you unexpectedly have sex. Every scenario I come up with involves some kind of pre-exisiting desire. Even if it is suppressed. So “unexpectedly”? You tell yourself what you need to. Before I sat down to write this I read Kdaddy’s thoughts on the situation. Some of his experiences made me consider that unmistakable attraction you sometimes have for a person, even when you know they are out of bounds. I have had that happen to me but I am fortunate that I had Mr Jones to save me from myself.

So I honestly can’t imagine being in the situation described. I do get into situations with men who are cheating on their partner. The “don’t tell” part of this scenario is very real here. I am also very clear on my position on this. I won’t tell but I will also not fuck you. People have this idea that their partner won’t find out when they cheat. Really? What does that say about the relationship they are trying to preserve if the partner doesn’t have some inkling that things are not as they should be. They will find out. Some day. Even if it is after you realise things aren’t right and you leave. When they do find out they will understandably be pissed and want to lash out. Not just at their cheating partner but also at their “friend” who aided and abetted. I am not up for being in the firing line for your dalliance. And so if you are cheating it won’t be with me. I don’t lie to my husband I am sure as shit not going to lie to your wife / husband either.

Given that my answer to question 1 was so long I have decided to skip question 2.

3. Do you think couples should argue regularly for a happy relationship or marriage?

The long term partner I had before Mr Jones and I was quite a bit older than I. I was also quite a bit younger and less grown up. Close to the end of our relationship I remember being very frustrated because he never fought back when I attacked. His response, “I just don’t argue, I don’t believe in it”.

I left him soon after that.

If what you believe or your own feelings aren’t worth fighting for then you aren’t much of a person.

I am also going to skip question 4. There is too much depth in this post already.

Bonus: If you were asked, “Why do you keep meeting the wrong people on dating apps?” what would you respond?

Bit of a confusing question. Why do I keep meeting the wrong people?

Because I don’t make a conscious choice to pursue what I exactly want and just deal with whatever comes along.It doesn’t mean I necessarily take what comes along but it does mean that I am fishing in a reduced pool so to speak.

Why do others keep meeting the wrong people?

Dating apps, especially if you are a woman, require a lot of filtering. So they require you to make decisions on very superficial things like age, height etc. I always wonder if making those kinds of decisions will rob me of the chance to make an amazing connection. In a nutshell meeting people in person and getting a feel for the whole person is much better.

Filthy Dirty Money

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1. True or False. You can never have enough

I think it is human nature to always want more. So the idea that you don’t have enough is always there in your mind. One of my favourite movie lines from a movie I have no idea of the name of the movie but the line is; “if you aren’t happy with what you have how will you be happy with something else?”

Ponder it for a while.

2. Will money solve all your problems? Why or why not?

In a word no. It won’t make people more kind. In actual fact it is what makes my students act like entitled fuckwits and it won’t really get me anything significantly nicer than what I have already.

3. Agree or disagree.  I will not buy something unless it is new (e.g. furniture, car, clothes).

Mr Jones would be better at making this argument but in essence a new car is more cost effective. In this stupid post Covid market where people are selling used cars for higher prices than a new one (possibly an Australian phenomenon) this is even more true.

4. Is it important to save for a rainy day (aka emergency fund)?

Rainy day no. You will find what you need when you need it.

Retirement yes. Living off a government pension for the rest of your life is not going to be the standard of living that I am interested in.

5. Complete the sentence. If I win millions in the lottery I will _____ .

Be very surprised. We never buy lottery tickets. But if someone wants to buy me a winning ticket I will go halvsies with them.

Bonus: Dating costs money: dating apps, outfits, grooming, and the date itself. Tell us how you plan to make a great cheap date?

The Pharmacist and I have been discussing this a little of late. I am happy with a pub meal and a nice chat in a comfortable house with a bottle of wine we bought on the way home. As long as there is great conversation I am happy.

TMI – Life Choices

The questions this week were multiple choice answers but in the nature of that kind of thing the choices weren’t quite right. So you all will just have my answers! Enjoy!

1. What are you focusing on in your life right now?

In my vanilla life I am focussing on my fitness and general health. There has been much discussion and focus on diet. Annoying but apparently you can’t eat what you want and stay slim.

In my sex life I have been exploring a few things. Some impact play with some friends and with Mr Jones wax play

2. Select one thing that you value most right now.

Forming good friendships both vanilla and spicy or even a vanilla friendship with spicy friends. There has been some upheavals with a couple of friends recently one of whom what a very long term friend. I am still reflecting on the events and conversations that led to the current state of affairs. I am not without blame of course but I have become more convinced that I don’t need drama lamas in my life right now.

3. Which type of well-being tool is of most interest to you?

The choices for this one were interesting

a. guided meditation
b. life coaching workshops
c. personal therapy
d. social content

I am going to go with a little bit of a. because I don’t have the self discipline to meditate. Even weekly. I also think a little bit of c would be helpful but the whole drama of finding a practitioner blech. So here I am avoiding life coaching workshops and laughing disdainfully at social content.

4. On a scale from 1 to 5. How much are you enjoying your life?

This is interesting. There are things about my life that I could stab in the eye every day; my 50 minute commute is one of them. As explained earlier, certain people can go suck a dick. however I get to work with some cool people and my Young People surprise me every day. So I think I am enjoying my life about 3.5 out of 5.

5. What have you been struggling with lately?

Mental health is something that I have been struggling with. I find myself struggling with things I used to take in my stride and getting frustrated to the point of tears over some things. I don’t like it but it is a reminder to me to take better care of myself.

Bonus: On a scale from 1 to 5, how hopeful do you feel about the future?

I spend my working day attempting to educate the tradesmen and women of the future. Sometimes it is successful sometimes not so much. I guess you have to consider what the definition of success is. Am I confident I will be able to get my light switches upgraded and my toilet fixed in the future? Perhaps. At least as much as there will be a doctor intelligent enough to help me with my health problems and I won’t end up in a nursing home.

TMI Tuesday – Airing the Dirty Laundry

1. Just curious. If you are in an open relationship, would it bother you if your partner’s new lover sent you pics of them together? Why or why not?

If I was unaware that he HAD a new lover and I got a random pic on my phone it would be a little disturbing. Just because of the surprise value. Otherwise I absolutely welcome it. I love the idea of Mr Jones having a good time and the affirmation I know he would enjoy if he had sexy time with someone else.

2. What is the rudest thing someone can do in your home?

I tend to be fairly selective of people that I invite into my home. So I haven’t had random people do rude things much. I think the rudest thing would be to show disrespect to the other people who live here. We have several “layers” of people living here; my daughter, my parents in law and another long term friend. All of these guys have very different perspectives of us and so anyone who comes into our house needs to respect them and their needs / right to be comfortable in THEIR home.

3. What would you change, if anything, about your experience growing up?

I would change where I went to primary school. I was home schooled, essentially because my mother didn’t want to be tied to a routine that either involved us being at home at a certain time every day to participate in school of the air or her driving 15 – 20 minutes to meet a bus to take us to the local school.

The outcome of her choices was that when I started high school and for the first time was dealing with a regular classroom I had no idea how to socialise. It caused me great distress and the five years of high / boarding school was traumatic.

4. The absolute worst fight you have ever had with a significant other, what was it about?

One of the hallmarks of Mr Jones’ and my marriage is that we don’t really fight. There isn’t a lot of yelling and sleeping on the couch. Moments of tension definitely happen, along with differences of opinion and at times we do hurt each other. But they get resolved, eventually. Usually without a screaming match or any crockery getting broken.

In the early days of young children and establishing the relationship there was tension around the amount of sex or affection between us. Without going into details there was an imbalance and my history of being made to feel guilty about EVERYTHING made me feel defensive. In true form, no one ever heard us yelling at each other and no one slept on the couch.

5. What is your favourite place to visit in your city or town.

Brisbane is right next to Moreton Bay. So within a couple of hours we can be in a pristine part of the world with a few other select people who own a watercraft and feel a million miles away. How can you not love that?

Bonus: Were you your mom or dad’s favorite kid?

I don’t think so. I was the eldest so I was the one who was expected to be responsible and set an example etc etc. Preferential treatment was always given to my younger brother. These days, as far as I am aware, I don’t even feature in the will.

TMI Tuesday Because You Can Never Have Too Much TMI

Yes this is the second instalment for today. You have to ride the motivation when it takes you.

1. Who here plays Wordle? Have you every solved wordle in one play?

Sometimes, and no. I like word games like Bananagrams and Scrabble but when I am idling on my phone Wordle doesn’t just tick my boxes.

2. Any Candy Crush addicts?

I used to be. I just got a bit bored with it. I still have the app on my phone though.

3. Anyone still engaging in Angry Birds fighting?

Wow I suck at these questions!

4. Do you Sudoku?

I actually do enjoy a good sudoku. I have giant book of them that I work on when I am out sailing. Another crazy puzzle in the same book is Kakuro. Addictive and frustrating.

5. Have you ever done an Escape Room? Did you like it?

I haven’t had the opportunity but there is one that is near me. The Unicorn went there with her friend and thoroughly enjoyed it. I am thinking I might drag Mr Jones along.

6. Are jigsaw puzzles your jam? How many pieces was the last jigsaw puzzle you did? What was the largest jigsaw puzzle you completed?

I really do like a good jigsaw. If only they didn’t take up so much space. The largest one we have ever done as a family was 1500 pieces. It took us a while!

Bonus: Is your brain sexy? How so?

Yes. Because being smart is sexy. Because being confident is sexy. Because thinking creatively about sex is sexy. Like this shot I took last night while doing my flexibility training.

TMI Tuesday – Better Late than Never

I seem to be doing a lot of this lately, starting a post and then not finishing it. Well in the spirit of slaying the demon that has been sitting on my chest here is last week’s TMI

1. What do you need most right now, a friend or a lover? Why?

Right now I don’t feel like I am in desperate need of either. I have Mr Jones. He is a good friend and a lifelong lover. This may sound cynical but my world seems to be full of people who would like to call themselves my friend but they are more interested in being there for the fun times than actually being a friend.

2. What song do you not know the lyrics of but you like to sing anyway?

So many but the one that springs to mind right now is Brittney Spears’ “Baby One More Time” I always sing “Show me how you want to do me” A much better lyric than “Show me how you want it to be”

3. Tell 3 things you recommend to watch on Youtube.

I really only use YouTube for school so my watch list is a bit weird. But here goes

Crash Course – A channel with educational videos for everyone

Bill Nye the Science Guy – The original show was released by Disney back in the day so the videos on YouTube are cut versions and the resolution is low but the kids like it mostly.

Adam Ruins Everything – This one isn’t really for school but it is worth a look.

4. What cartoon (include animated series) do you still watch?

I was never really a great watcher of cartoons. My access to any kind of non-educational television was limited when I was a child so I never really formed any kind of attachment to pop culture until I was an adult. The only cartoons that I really formed a connection with were the americanised Animes Astro Boy and G-Force.

5. Have you conquered one of your fears? What was it?

During my voyage last year I faced many fears. Some are hard to define but I felt I became a much braver person. Currently I am battling a fear of a particular pole move called a layback. It is challenging as I recently had a fall from this movement and it has shaken me. But I am working on it. Slowly.

Bonus: At this point in time, would you rather travel or focus on your career? Why?

At this point in time I am working because I am not ready to be fully retired but I don’t consider myself as focussing on a career. I am currently researching a potential trip to the United States in 2024 and also considering another voyage the following year. So I guess I am focussing on travel.

Bonus Bonus: Because boobs. And somewhere back in that post I talked about sailing.