I came across this set of questions on the blog of
Brigit Delaney. I really like the concept of sets of questions because it helps to keep me focused. As I answer each question in a post I will link it back here.
Question 1: How do you define awesome sex. (ie what makes sex better than good)
Question 2: How do you feel about public displays of affection (PDA). You can take this as far as kinks in public
Question 3: What are your sure fire turn ons and / or turn offs?
Question 4: What do you think about when you masturbate?
Question 5: What are your thoughts about porn?
Question 6: What are your thoughts on foreplay? Favourite types, Best Experiences, Wishes?
Question 7: What parts of your lover’s body are you most drawn to? If you don’t currently have a lover consider past or future lovers
Question 8: Consider a moment in your life of great sensuality, eroticism or sexuality. Then answer the questions that Mary Oliver does in her poem “Gratitude” as they apply to that moment
Question 9: If you were to recreated the early days of your favourite sexy relationship, what would they look like? Would you change anything?
Question 10: What would you want more of in your sex life?
Question 11: Would you ever visit a sex therapist? What would be the reason and what do you think their advice would be for you?
Question 12: Is there anything about sex that embarrasses you, causes shame or fear or makes you nervous? Or what is the most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to you during sex?
Question 13: What do you tend to fantasise or dream about when it comes to sex? What kinds of porn or kink are you drawn to?
Question 14: If you were to create a sexy playlist intended for a hot date at home, what would be on it?
Question 15: What are your love languages and how do they apply to your sexual needs? What about your lover?
Question 16: How do you feel about being naked?
Questions 17: What’s your favourite way to be seduced?
Question 18: Do you have any trust issues surrounding sex or your sexual relationship(s)?
Question 19: What do you look like, and sound like when sex feels good for you?
Question 20: What is the most sexually daring thing you’ve ever done?
Question 21: In your opinion what does it mean to be good in bed?
Question 22: Have you ever had sex in a public place?
Question 23: When and how did you lose your virginity, and how did you feel about it? How did you feel about it now?
Question 24: Have you ever had sex with more than one person at a time, watched others have sex, been watched? If not, would you?
Question 25: How often do you masturbate and what works best for you?
Question 26: What are you most grateful or thankful for in your sex life?
Question 27: What is your favourite sexual position and why?
Question 28: Have you ever had an “innappropriate” crush? What was it about that person that drew you in, and what made it “not okay”?
Question 29: Have you (or would you) ever tried role play? What roles are you drawn to?
Question 30: Are you more dominant or submissive (or a bit of both)?