This is the third in a series of “Sex Interviews” based on questions posted by a fellow blogger who has taken a hiatus for a while.
Question 1: Describe the physical characteristics you prefer. No lover is likely to be perfect, but describe your ideal lover’s body:
• Body (height / build / skin tone / hair & eye color / other): Tall, broad, strong, bald, hairy is OK I don’t have a preference for skin tone. I love a man who is strong and able to manhandle me.
• Genitalia (sizes / characteristics / grooming / other): A cock has to be in proportion. I am not a size queen but I like my mouth to be very full. He has to hit my gag point when I take him into my mouth. As long as it is clean I am not worried about hair but I am sensitive to smell and sometimes guys; pubic hair can be funky.
Question 2: Favorite position:
This is going to sound boring I know but I like to ride a guy. Sitting up and looking into his face while I pleasure him is amazing. I know all you dirty fuckers thought I was going to say some weird erotic thing like “reverse cowgirl with a twist”
One position I would like to try is pegging a guy while looking into his face.
Question 3: Favorite music to make love two? (list up to 3)
Honestly I don’t play music while fucking. I just never have. Not sure why it just isn’t something that I do. Sometimes when I visit a lover he puts on some kind of background music but it is usually inconsequential.
When I was seeing The Colombian he was living in a kind of boarding house for young people who had come to Australia as students or backpackers. He used to play this Colombian heavy metal kind of stuff. I couldn’t understand the lyrics and had never heard the music before. Sometimes it was kind of annoying but I am sure the reason he played it was to drown out the sound of what we were doing.
Question 4: Do you prefer lights on or off and why?
I like some light. I like to see what I am doing mostly. Glaring fluorescents are not the way to go but some good mood lighting is optimal. That way I can see his body and his face. I like to see the reaction on his face to what I am doing.
Question 5: What is your favorite location to have sex? (bed, chair, couch, floor, shower, car, porch, pool, Jacuzzi, rooftop, etc.) Feel free to list top two if you can’t decide.
Bed is always good. But of course it is a given.
I am also a fan of the great outdoors. Mr Jones and I have had some great sexual encounters on beaches and on park benches.
Question 6: What if you favorite place on your body to be touched other than your genitals?
I like to have my stomach stroked. It is guaranteed to get things happening if I am not quite in the mood. I am also a fan of my hair being pulled gently at first but harder as things warm up.
Question 7: Do you prefer that a lover make a lot of noise or that they are silent? (or describe what sounds you prefer they make)
Sex sounds are a strange thing. Out of context they can be a little disturbing. The same as sex faces really. Different sounds can sometimes take a bit of getting used to but I definitely prefer some noise.
I am noisy, (the reason for the weird Colombian heavy metal). But I also get really turned on by the sound of a man cumming. When JB came in my mouth for the first time I recorded it for him as a memory, it was the first time he ever came in anyone’s mouth. I still have that recording, not for the visual but for the sound of him cumming. I have listened to that soundtrack a ridiculous number of times. It never fails to get me going.
Question 8: What time of day do you prefer?
I am a morning girl. I most definitely like to wake up with sex. Mr Jones is more of an evening kind of guy. Which means a lot of compromise has to happen.
Question 9: Do you prefer it hard or gentle? (granted this may change depending on your mood, but which do you more often prefer?)
It is a hard decision for me. Johnny is the gentle type and he is sexy as fuck. I feel that he could flip easily but he refuses to. Maybe that is what gives him that edge. He is gentle and respectful but I can feel his power and it really gets me going.
Question 10: How often would you prefer to have sex?
Over our marriage frequency of sex has been a dominating topic. Early in our marriage in the thick of babies, toddlers, night feeds and juggling motherhood and career, sex was not a priority for me. Mr Jones felt rejected and I felt pressured to up my game. We had many conversations about how long it had been since we had sex, how good the sex was and he often questioned if I really wanted him.
These days the shoe is on the other foot. I would like to say I have made my peace with it but I am not there yet. I worked hard during those early years to not go down the path I saw my mother on. Prudish and “lights off, once a year on your birthday, missionary position” sex. I don’t want to be that wife who always has a headache. I also don’t want to be that wife who complains to her friends that her husband isn’t interested in sex. Right now I could easily become the second.
I think I could fill pages and pages with my twisted mind stuff on this topic. To answer the question though… One good session once per week would be good for me.